I mentioned some other things I was doing alongside this and she got offended.... telling me I probably didn't need her. In fact she was acting like a jealous gf..... we rarely saw each other in person... did one phone call on the concepts.... and she never went to barb gatherings. ... so..... though I had a teacher in name? She lived too far away... got mad at me when I expressed interest in other ideas that weren't sreessing me out.... and ostensibly she was super busy. And then I asked a question. Her answer was confusing... so I asked for clarification. And our fragile student teacher connection bond developed cracks. I really didn't like or grok what she wanted me to do. She didn't like my pace or my not getting what she was trying to say.
Then? After a six month hiatus I was looking for the first four answers I finally got right & I couldn't find it. And she said we were done. I kinda knew it because I was resistant and frustrated with what she wanted me to do.... but I thought I'd give it one more shot... she decided to cut me off at the knees. .. which was probably correct. ... but.... as a teacher? I would have checked in more often... been less impatient and scheduled more phone calls. And certainly not acted angry when the person who you very long distance taught expressed interest in other things.... seemed to me to be an overreaction to the situation that i'd (the teacher) done norhing to improve the connection. Another mistake she made.... was assuming I'd only contacted her because I was envious of an ACTUAL student. ... that she had a REAL connection with. Maybe she reminded me to get back to the task that had been rolling around in my head but jealous? No.... I have two degrees in braided wheel and they've given me nothing but a solid base of understanding. If she really thought I needed degrees then maybe she could have checked with me and not made assumptions about what I valued. What I valued and admired was her strength of character and loving spirit and her knowledge of some things I clearly didn't understand. I've gained some ground with my current teacher. She understands that I need autonomy and depth of study. She allows me to explore multiple avenues of thought and approves of me. She doesn't get mad and jealous if I need to work with another alongside her. Because she understands I still need her.... my ping pong brain needs a little bit here and a little bit there... it doesn't respond well to being forced to fit a square peg. I just can't. ... not that I can't learn her way... but I resist ...
And it takes longer. ... and it's stressful for me to really strongly focus on ONE thing only. It's legitimately hard for me. And sometimes painful.
Sometimes these things don't work.... but I did kinda warn her. She just didn't understand how my mind works. And that's ok. I still miss her presence daily and being blocked on Facebook hurt my feelings. .. but kali is my goddess and i'm learning to be less fearful of change.
I'm a work in progress...
but hopefully these links will help:
Personal Incense Recipes
Purple Magic (k)*
Basic Cone and stick Incense recipe
1 part dried Aronia berry (or other dried berry such as raspberry)
1 part aloeswood
1 part sandalwood
1 part black copal or other resin
fluid such as rosewater
and essential oils
the key is to add the water slowly and knead it in and then add a little more
because if it gets too moist it will be hard to form correctly similar to bread making
so making a pliable "dough" is key
once there you can form it into cones using your thumb and index fingers
I like to rest the flat end on the heel of my palm
for stick get some bamboo skewers and cover them in some of the incense mixture "dough"
let air dry, or if you are in a moist environment you can dry them in
the oven on the lowest setting for about 2 hours. air drying will take a
few days or less if you are in a dry desert area. rest them on plates
when drying in a well ventilated area.
voila you have incense! so easy to use and poetic in it's form. Mmmm!
b) for now belonging to two communities that enthusiastically answer my difficult questions in helpful ways.
what would have beebn cool is if a person compared the sun's energy to the moon's energy ... gonna keep looking for this I think.
It's a goodthing for me though challenging because it requires mofdificstion:
40 day discipline uis our friend challenge